There was some big news this past week in the world. And because of it, people crawled out from under their rocks or from behind their books, took time off from their jobs, maybe didn’t even feed their children lunch here and there so that they could all voice their opinions on what is going on in the world. Many of the likeminded folks who were celebrating were high fiving one another, using rainbows to convey their stance and posting article after article after article about how their side is right.
The other side also posted article after article after article to prove their point. They quoted scripture. They high-fived one another when something was said that proved that they too, were right.
I believe we will all be amazed someday at how little we were right about and how very much we were wrong about. And I also believe that one day we will answer for how we went about that, no matter the side.
So amidst all of this, there has been quite a bit of name calling. It’s the internet. We’re used to seeing name calling. It’s easy to sit behind a computer screen and tell someone that they are ugly, fat, mean, idiotic and so forth. Recently a photo went viral of a young lady who caught a bouquet at a wedding, her boyfriend sitting beside her with an “Uh oh” look on his face and her Dad looking at the boyfriend disapprovingly. The girl was adorable. Young and blonde with a sweet smile on her face. Her boyfriend, according to the internet experts didn’t meet up to their standards and the blasting began. How sad for this young couple! Personally, I think they were adorable. (there’s my opinion)
So back to the name calling. As a Mom of a special needs adult I cringe over one of the words. I have parented my special needs child for 25 1/2 years and still, it makes my heart sink when someone uses the “R” word. Why? Why? Why? Why are we still using that word in describing someone dumb? In describing something we think is wrong? In describing a situation in which we don’t agree? Why??
This morning alone on Facebook, I saw it used in reference to a food item. Yesterday, it was about politics. Today, who knows?
My daughter is a person with autism. She has mild to moderate mental retardation and is emotionally and intellectually challenged. Would you call her the “R” word to her face? Behind a computer screen?
I realize that I am going to take this more personally than most, although I imagine I can speak for the millions of parents out there with special needs children. But before you go that route, please take one moment, think of this girl’s gorgeous face and ask yourself…..can I be a bit more articulate in how I want to describe a person, place, thing or event? If not for me, how about for her.