How do you say goodbye, knowing that you probably won’t see this person again before they pass away? What words do you use? Do you talk about what is looming behind the shadows? Do you state the obvious? Or do you pretend like it’s not happening. Do you say “I’ll miss you”? Do you say “See you soon!”? Or maybe “See you on the other side”?
We’re planning a trip to WI to see my husband’s Mother. She has cancer and it’s taken full residence in her body and there is nothing that can be done. She was given 6 months to live about 4 months ago. When she told my husband, she seemed to have real peace. She had come to terms with what would be happening and seemed “ok” with it, much to our surprise. She had one request though. She wanted, while she was still able to health-wise, to have a big party with family and friends. An all day party. At a local bar. So, we are traveling north to have a party in a bar on a Monday. It’s quirky, unusual and perfect for her! There we’ll hang out, eat, drink, tell stories and just be together. Family. Friends. Loves. That part of it excites me. The hugs goodbye later….no.
My hub and I have been married 25 years this year. She’s been my MIL for 25 years. His Mom for 46. A Nanny to our children for 24 and 22. She’s not perfect. I’m not perfect. We wish there was more relationship than what we’ve had in the last 10 years but life works out differently than we plan sometimes. It’s okay. It is what it is. But even if we wished for more, we wish even more that her time wasn’t being cut off so soon. And knowing what is to come makes it even more difficult. Knowing she’ll suffer and feel pain and basically deteriorate, well……pretty tough stuff. Been there before with loved ones. Least. Favorite. Thing. Ever. But, there’s hope. Hope on the other side. She was baptized as an adult. Oh happy day! And recommitted herself to a life in Christ.
3-5 I heard a voice thunder from the Throne: “Look! Look! God has moved into the neighborhood, making his home with men and women! They’re his people, he’s their God. He’ll wipe every tear from their eyes. Death is gone for good—tears gone, crying gone, pain gone—all the first order of things gone.” The Enthroned continued, “Look! I’m making everything new. Write it all down—each word dependable and accurate.” Revelation 21:4 (The Message)
God is in the neighborhood. He’s in families. In love. In cancer. Goodbye’s are temporary with the hope of His face!